This week we will be looking at the following tips from the article:
"Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him. Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it."
Coming home to my children after I have been gone from them for even an hour is always a highlight for me. I am greeted with giant hugs, ear-to-ear smiles and a "Mommy!" that would melt an ice cap. My children rush to show me everything they have been doing and they turn up the charm, trying to entertain me with their theatrics. Knowing what awaits me when I walk in the door makes me so excited to come home and their precious reactions to my arrival make me smile just thinking about it. I feel incredibly loved and important and I want to be a better mother for them. I must admit it is great for my ego.
We also do this with our friends and other loved ones. We cheerfully greet our friends with warm smiles and bend over backwards trying to make their visit enjoyable. We look for interesting topics that we think they will enjoy talking about and hope that they will find their visit with you one of the most enjoyable aspects of their day.
We can cultivate those same feelings of being loved, valued and important in our husbands by showing him that we are excited to have him home again. You probably did this when you were dating. Seeing him pull up to your house made your heart flutter and you couldn't help but greet him with a warm smile and a cheerful attitude. You wanted his time with you to be the best part of his day. You wanted him to leave from your dates excited for the next time he would get to see you. What if your husband felt like this every day that he left to go to work no matter how many years you had been married? That is the goal of these tips.
These actions act as a safe guard against unfaithfulness. Cheating men often cite that the unwelcoming attitudes of their wives made them feel unloved and disrespected while the women they had affairs with made them feel important and respected. I would never blame a wife for her husband's infidelity, but in truth, a man who looks forward to coming home to his wife everyday is far less likely to cheat.
Showing him your desire to please him can be as simple as offering him a cup of coffee or making dinner you know he will like or giving him a romantic kiss upon his arrival. Treat him as you would treat a friend who just came for dinner. Striving to be interesting and gay for him is as simple as being in a good mood and talking to him about things he enjoys.
Many women, myself included can get caught up in the words "it is your duty" to give his day a lift, but it needn't trip us up. If God willed that the husband and wife be a team, and to offer what the other needs or is lacking, than would it not be a duty of each spouse to be an uplifting force in his or her partner's day, to help them endure the everyday hardships they each will face?
You can be a blessing to your husband, lifting his spirits after a long or difficult day. It is a gift you freely give your husband because you are his helpmate and you want to lighten his burden and because you have his best interest at heart. When your husband feels loved, valued and important, you create a longing in him to be the man he believes you see him to be.
This week, try to remember back to the way you treated your husband and compare that to the your attitude toward him today. Make a commitment to welcome him home with a warm smile, and an effort to show him that you want him to be happy and enjoy his time with you.
The Modern Housewife