Last week we looked at the first "tip" in the article about the importance of getting dinner on the table for our hungry husbands. This week we'll be looking at the 2nd tip in the article,
"Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you will be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair, and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people."
This is just good marketing, ladies. Statistically, most affairs start in the workplace. Our husbands are out in the world, working along-side attractive women who make an effort to look good every day. Are they then coming home to tired-looking, wives who haven't taken the time to brush their hair and put on a little make-up?
I remember when my husband and I were dating. I used to stop by his house on my way out with girlfriends, just to say a quick, "Hi!" on my way out to some party or college bar. Was that the true reason for my visit? Heck no! I wanted to make sure that I would be on his mind while he was out with the guys. I wanted to remind him of what he had. I spent an hour getting ready for our dates, making sure I was dressed just right and my hair looked perfect. Don't we all do that?
Fast forward 5 years and 2 babies into our marriage. We have now officially seen each other at our worse, and that's a beautiful thing. To be known completely, to be loved just as much on my worst days as on my best, is wonderful. I must also remember, though, to not take that for granted, and stop trying to look good for him.
Men are visual creatures and they are constantly bombarded with provocative images of women, half-naked on TV and billboards, cleavage hanging out, even at the workplace. Imagine, constant temptation for his thoughts to go where they shouldn't. You know where is thoughts can safely go? To his wife.
Now, I am NOT saying that I think we need to look perfect all the time or that we need to look like we did when we were 20. I don't think either of those attitudes are healthy or necessary, but we do need to maintain a level of pride in our appearance, even when no one but our family will see us. How must that make our husbands feel if they see us making an effort when going out on a rare mom's night out, but never making an effort for him?
Part 1: Have Dinner Ready